Are you human or machine?
So many leaders and companies run their teams and people strategies as some kind of macho endurance competition, that ultimately grinds people into a pulp and creates huge levels of stress and anxiety across the whole workforce.
In these macho cultures, coaching is often considered a remedial and last ditch attempt, to turnaround poor performance, prior to removal from role or employment termination.
Asking for help is considered a sign of weakness. Who in their right minds enjoys this working climate?
One obvious problem here, is the treatment of human beings as machines that just run and run and run. Without any discernible problems arising. Even machines have regular maintenance schedules.
Yet when we check under the bonnet, in our engine room, we see the debris of stress related illness, addictions, broken relationships and marriages and high dependence on alcohol, sex and other emotional props, stress relief diversions, or numbing mechanisms, to get by.
Are you currently part of the problem, or the solution?
What does your self maintenance programme look like?
Are you prioritising quality time and space to create balance and core rejuvenation?
If you are a workaholic, then performance delivery could be driven by fear of not being enough, without your working life to define you. If you have a strong emotional reaction to this personal implication whilst reading this, then its even more likely this is true.
Executive Life Coaching is for the Whole Person
Another definition of insanity, is expecting different results from similar actions and choices.
I know from my own experiences, that trying to separate personal life challenges from my working life problems is somewhat futile. Try having babies and families of your own and stay unaffected!
Also the pressures of deadlines and constant demands can often seem unavoidable. However, alongside demand and constraints, we have choices.
So life coaching for executives, recognises upfront, that both personal and professional areas of an executives life, are inevitably interrelated and inextricably linked.
Whilst intellectually we may not always agree with this, emotionally, the links are sitting there and various strings are waiting to be pulled that throw us off balance. If unchecked, we start sliding down a steep and slippery slope of deteriorating performance anyway.
4 Questions to Explore Your Performance, Inspiration and Fulfilment
Just to explore your belief systems for a moment, try considering the following questions…
- What does it take for you to deliver high performance and feel inspired and fulfilled in all aspects of your life? What would be different to how you operate today?
- Whats the price you believe you have to pay personally, to be successful in business?
- Is it inevitable that your personal life will suffer, the higher up the organisation you climb?
- Who are your role models? Is this ‘self induced suffering’ true for them?
These questions can help set the scene for a personal and professional review process. The real question revolves around ‘relevance’ to you.
5 Benefits of Executive Life Coaching
If you are in a high pressure executive leadership role, then there are real and practical ways to provide help and support you need, to enjoy the journey, instead of sacrificing yourself, for some future destination.
Benefits of Executive Life Coaching include…
1. Stock take of the ‘whole you’
Doing a holistic stock take of your personal and professional life status.
Our available time for XYZ always follows our conscious or unconscious priority decisions made. How do you prioritise your life?
3. New Questions From Outer Space
Engaging with trustworthy executive life coaches you don’t yet know, from outside of your normal circle, can be highly illuminating and revealing.
4. Reconnecting to Sources of Fun and Inspiration
Maybe its time you explored your core values and what really gives you a buzz, and why.
5. Asking for Help is a Big Sign of Your Strength and Character
Asking for help (in a sane world of our own making), provides an opportunity for you to access new information, insights, capabilities and perspectives, from highly experienced supporters, who have your best interests at heart.
And finally, death bed regrets…
Nobody, on their death bed, ever said “I wish I spent more time in the office”.
According to Bonnie Ware (a palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days), the ‘top 3’ death bed regrets are: –
- I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me (the most common regret of all).
- I wish I hadn’t worked so hard (from every male patient she nursed!).
- I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings (suppressing feelings in order to keep peace with others).
Executive Life Coaching helps you avoid having these regrets at the end and helps you focus on what will you set out to achieve, or change, to create a better life for yourself, your loved ones and your business, right now.
Nick Le Clere is a strategic change consultant and facilitator, executive leadership coach, trainer, innovator and speaker, running online webinars and learning events for conscious business leaders of the future.
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